Do you think the most common marital problem is communication?
If you said yes, you’re right. Of course it’s not the only problem. Many couples often experience conflict in the following areas:
- Household chores
But the failure of spouses to really understand what the other means is the root cause of nearly all marital problems and usually creates an unhappy marriage if not fixed.
If talking to your spouse feels like talking to a statue, you feel a void grow between you two. One that threatens to swallow your marriage. That void grows even when your spouse hears you, but doesn’t really understand what you mean or how you feel.
Communication problems are maddening and sometimes impossible to understand. They can weaken your self-confidence and make you question what you see and hear.
Life doesn’t have to be this way.
Women and men really do communicate in different ways. Unfortunately, that difference often results in one misunderstanding the other’s intent. What comes across as criticism may have been expressed out of genuine concern rather than as an attack. What one hears as nagging, the other may have meant as a request for affection. Sometimes you need someone who understands both languages—a marriage counselor. Marriage counseling isn’t about judging who is right and wrong; it’s about helping you and your spouse understand what each of you really means.
Marriage Counseling in San Ramon
I’m Elvina Lui and I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in San Ramon. I’ve been helping husbands and wives change their unhappy marriages into satisfying ones for over five years. I’ve helped many couples learn to talk so each finally understands what the other is trying to get across. If your spouse ignores you or misunderstands what you’re trying to say, I’d like to help you.
Better Sex Life
Does having a better sex life sound good to you? How about seeing your spouse at home and being able to relax. Providing a stronger foundation for your children? Being happy? These are just some of the benefits that grow when you and your spouse are able to communicate effectively.
Contact Me Now
Are you feeling alone, unsupported, under-appreciated in your marriage? Are you ready to stand up for your own happiness and the survival of your marriage? Don’t waste another day hoping your spouse will somehow change on his or her own.
If you’re in San Ramon or the surrounding area, call me now for a complimentary phone consultation. Let me bridge the void between you and your spouse so you both get the understanding and support you need.
Elvina Lui, M.A., MFT